This old thing???
You look nice today
Thank you so much for helping us last week.
That dress looks gorgeous on you.
I saw this and thought of you, I hope you like it.
Who hears these lovely, kind, thoughtful words and responds with:
Oh don’t, I look a mess!
Don’t be silly. It was nothing!
This! I’ve had it for years!
Oh gosh, you really shouldn’t have. Don’t waste your money on me.
Or words to that effect.
How does it feel to read those responses?
How comfortable do you feel receiving?
Do you bat it away like those comments above?
Receiving with grace is a gift to the giver. It completes the cycle of giving.
When we bat it away it feels like a rejection. We close ourselves off.
I love what Grace Marshall has to say about grace in her book Struggle
“Generosity can only happen if I’m willing to receive as well as give” Grace Marshall, Struggle
It can’t be one way. But receiving is an act of vulnerability. It says, I am worthy of this. I am open to being recognised, helped, supported, celebrated.
How do you feel when you hear that? What does it make you think?
What might be stopping you from gracefully receiving offers of help, compliments, gifts?
What might change if you open yourself up to receive? What message might that put out to the world?
A heartfelt thank you followed by an expression of how the ‘gift’ has made you feel is a beautiful way to complete the cycle of giving.
Why not give it a try? See how it feels. See what impact it has.
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